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One Life One Heart One Love
The Non-Dual World of Advaita, Zen, Dzogchen & Mahamudra

Broken Heart
Issue #11
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Philosophy One to One Beautiful Words Sights & Sounds Funny One!


The Fire of a Broken Heart

EVERYONE'S HEART IS BREAKING. Everyone's clothes are on fire, but very few notice it. It is rare and wonderful when we do notice it. You may be at a point where you can no longer rationalize or intellectualize your situation, where you can no longer defend yourself or whatever you think you are. As painful as it may feel, this is a gift. How extraordinary that you can no longer lie to yourself! You can no longer lie to the world. The only thing left to do is to let your heart break wide open.

This song of true sadness is heard when we discover, without mental, emotional or psychological defense, how everything we are thinking, saying and doing is to prop up this assumption that we are separate and in competition. Separate and isolated from each other, separate and isolated from the world, even separate and isolated from our own body, heart and mind. This heartache will continue as long as we obsessively identify with what is thought of and perceived as my body, my mind, my personality and my concerns as separate and isolated from everything else.

When the insubstantiality and the transience of the body, sensations, emotions, mental formations, conditionings and personal circumstances are exposed in their totality, it may dawn on you there is only consciousnessthis infinite unknown, this vast emptiness into which everything arises. You and I are not separate from this. We are this consciousness, this wide open, infinite unknown. "Your" awareness, "my" awareness, everyone's awarenessare all the Same Awareness. And it has no limits. It contains everything and it is everything.

When you discover, beyond any shadow of doubt, that we are the Same, it completely changes everything. This is the unending wonder and bottomless depth of Realization. Let it permeate and saturate every molecule of your being, every subatomic particle in the entire universe.

Love simply is. By its very nature, it is without conditions or limits. It has no dependencies, attachments, vested interests or possessions. Love is freedom. It is beauty, freedom and joy without measure.


Writing from: Open and Innocent by —Scott Morrison
Art: Leif Madsen

One to One

Love and Intimate Relationships

Q: I've heard and read that our natural state of awareness can also be called love. Can you expand upon this?

A: The presence of awareness with the absence of 'me' is love.

Q: Is the absence of 'me' required for there to be love? Can't love be experienced in personal, intimate relationships?

A: Love is the essence of all existence. Love is the natural state of all being. All there is, is love. Without love, nothing is. Love is not personal. There is no 'my' love or 'your' love—there is just love.

Q: How is love experienced on a personal level in intimate relationships?  Surely, there must be a 'you' and a 'me' to know and experience love!

A: When two are involved in a personal relationship there are times when the sense of 'you' and 'me' (ego) falls away in each person. In the absence of the sense of you and me there is love. This is the sense of peace, joy, and blissful oneness for which we're all longing: it's our natural state.

When the sense of ego rises again, the natural state of love is personalized by the mind and claimed as a personal experience of the ego. The two egos then assume that the other is the source of their love. This, of course, leads to fear of loss, jealousy and a host of other painful emotions.

Q: That makes sense, but I don't 'love' everyone. There is a special sense of love I have for my partner. Aren't there different types of love?

A: On a personal level, there are different types of relationships, and there can be a special attraction between partners based on biological and psychological compatibility. But there are not different types of love or a special love. Love is the essence of all being, it's absolute, unconditional, and impersonal.

Q: How will this recognition help me with my personal relationships?

A: Knowing yourself as pure awareness and not a separate ego, there is the recognition that your essential nature is love. You are what you have always been seeking. You don't need anyone or anything to fill the sense of emptiness, loneliness, and separation that is the egoic experience. The fear of loss, jealousy, and other painful emotions that are the essence of egoic relationships fall away. You are able to truly enjoy the beauty of all human relationships in complete freedom, love, and peace.

Love is your natural state.


From: The Outrageous Myths of Enlightenment
—by Stephen Wingate
Art: "Girl Before a Mirror" —Pablo Picasso

Beautiful Words


Living Flame
O Love's living flame,
Tenderly you wound
My soul's deepest center!
Since you no longer evade me,
Will you, please, at last conclude:
Rend the veil of this sweet encounter!
O cautery so tender!
O pampered wound!
O soft hand! O touch so delicately strange,
Tasting of eternal life
And canceling all debts!
Killing, deathinto life you change!
O lamps of fiery lure,
In whose shining transparence
The deep cavern of the senses,
Blind and obscure,
Warmth and light, with strange flares,
Gives with the lover's caresses!
How tame and loving
Your memory rises in my breast,
Where secretly only you live,
And in your fragrant breathing,
Full of goodness and grace,
How delicately in love you make me feel!
St. John of the Cross

Art by: Dave Newman

Sights & Sounds

Love: Reality or Illusion?
—Anthony de Mello
31:19 min

Funny One

Lucky in Love

A WOMAN'S HUSBAND had been slipping in and out of a coma for several months, yet she stayed by his bedside every single day. When he came to, he motioned for her to come nearer.

As she sat by him, he said, "You know what? You have been with me through all the bad times. When I got fired, you were there to support me. When my business failed, you were there. When I got shot, you were by my side. When we lost the house, you gave me support. When my health started failing, you were still by my side. You know what?"

"What dear?" She asked gently.

"I think you bring me bad luck."



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