The Fire of a
HEART IS BREAKING. Everyone's clothes are on fire, but very few
notice it. It is rare and wonderful when we do notice it. You
may be at a point where you can no longer rationalize or
intellectualize your situation, where you can no longer defend
yourself or whatever you think you are. As painful as it may
feel, this is a gift. How extraordinary that you can no longer
lie to yourself! You can no longer lie to the world. The only
thing left to do is to let your heart break wide open.
This song of true sadness is heard when we discover, without
mental, emotional or psychological defense, how everything we
are thinking, saying and doing is to prop up this assumption
that we are separate and in competition. Separate and isolated
from each other, separate and isolated from the world, even
separate and isolated from our own body, heart and mind. This
heartache will continue as long as we obsessively identify with
what is thought of and perceived as my body, my
mind, my personality and my concerns as separate
and isolated from everything else.
insubstantiality and the transience of the body, sensations,
emotions, mental formations, conditionings and personal
circumstances are exposed in their totality, it may dawn on you
there is only consciousness—this
infinite unknown, this vast emptiness into which everything
arises. You and I are not separate from this. We are this
consciousness, this wide open, infinite unknown. "Your"
awareness, "my" awareness, everyone's awareness—are
all the Same Awareness. And it has no limits. It contains
everything and it is everything.
When you discover, beyond any shadow of doubt, that we are the
Same, it completely changes everything. This is the unending
wonder and bottomless depth of Realization. Let it permeate and
saturate every molecule of your being, every subatomic particle
in the entire universe.
Love simply is. By its very nature, it is without conditions or
limits. It has no dependencies, attachments, vested interests or
possessions. Love is freedom. It is beauty, freedom and joy
Open and Innocent by
Love and Intimate Relationships
I've heard and read that our natural state of awareness can also
be called love. Can you expand upon this?
The presence of awareness with the absence of 'me' is love.
Q: Is the
absence of 'me' required for there to be love? Can't love be
experienced in personal, intimate relationships?
Love is the essence of all existence. Love is the natural
state of all being. All there is, is love. Without love,
nothing is. Love is not personal. There is no 'my' love or
is just love.
Q: How is
love experienced on a personal level in intimate
relationships? Surely, there must be a 'you' and a
'me' to know and experience love!
When two are involved in a personal relationship there are
times when the sense of 'you' and 'me' (ego) falls away in
each person. In the absence of the sense of you and me there
is love. This is the sense of peace, joy, and blissful
oneness for which we're all longing: it's our natural state.
When the sense
of ego rises again, the natural state of love is
personalized by the mind and claimed as a personal
experience of the ego. The two egos then assume that the
other is the source of their love. This, of course, leads to
fear of loss, jealousy and a host of other painful emotions.
makes sense, but I don't 'love' everyone. There is a special
sense of love I have for my partner. Aren't there different
types of love?
On a personal level, there are different types of
relationships, and there can be a special attraction between
partners based on biological and psychological
compatibility. But there are not different types of love or
a special love. Love is the essence of all being, it's
absolute, unconditional, and impersonal.
will this recognition help me with my personal
Knowing yourself as pure awareness and not a separate ego,
there is the recognition that your essential nature is love.
You are what you have always been seeking. You don't need
anyone or anything to fill the sense of emptiness,
loneliness, and separation that is the egoic experience. The
fear of loss, jealousy, and other painful emotions that are
the essence of egoic relationships fall away. You are able
to truly enjoy the beauty of all human relationships in
complete freedom, love, and peace.
Love is your
Outrageous Myths of Enlightenment
—by Stephen Wingate
Art: "Girl Before a Mirror"
O Love's living flame,
Tenderly you wound
My soul's deepest center!
Since you no longer evade me,
Will you, please, at last conclude:
Rend the veil of this sweet encounter!
O cautery so tender!
O pampered wound!
O soft hand! O touch so delicately strange,
Tasting of eternal life
And canceling all debts!
Killing, death—into life you change!
O lamps of fiery lure,
In whose shining transparence
The deep cavern of the senses,
Blind and obscure,
Warmth and light, with strange flares,
Gives with the lover's caresses!
How tame and loving
Your memory rises in my breast,
Where secretly only you live,
And in your fragrant breathing,
Full of goodness and grace,
How delicately in love you make me feel!
—St. John of the Cross
Lucky in Love
WOMAN'S HUSBAND had been slipping in and out of a coma for
several months, yet she stayed by his bedside every single day.
When he came to, he motioned for her to come nearer.
As she sat by him, he said, "You know what? You have been with
me through all the bad times. When I got fired, you were there
to support me. When my business failed, you were there. When I
got shot, you were by my side. When we lost the house, you gave
me support. When my health started failing, you were still by my
side. You know what?"
"What dear?" She
"I think you bring
me bad luck."
● One Heart
● One Love
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